Blog re-post about a HD reading with me

@itsmaryk is one of my favorite gals I have done readings for… and she just so happens to be an amazing writer! Since she is WAY better at capturing the depths of Human Design in an easy to follow style - I am saving myself the energy of attempting to do so by simply sharing her work! Linked is her blog on her Human Design Reading experience (she also wrote one about her Astrology Reading with me too). I highly encourage going down the rabbit hole and reading alllll of the things + her BOOK !!! - talented much?

Thanks, Mary!!!

Want to learn Astrology? Start with the signs!!

I get asked the following question all of the time :

“Do you have any book recommendations/resources for learning more about astrology?”.

The answer?

“Crap! I don’t, because I didn’t read any books on it at all.”

I am sure there are fabulous ones out there I just don’t have any to personally recommend! I need a short answer to explain the following but for now, since I don’t have any references to share, I will try to explain how I would suggest going about learning Astrology using the internet…

I personally learn based on intuition and relating things back to people and feelings. So, I started by learning my own chart (I used Astrotheme to pull up my chart). Instead of reading and trying to memorize each rising sign, I’d learn about mine. Instead of learning what each planet meant, I instead just read about what a placement I personally had (like Mars in Capricorn for example) was like. By understanding what my Mars in Capricorn meant, I would be like - “Oooooh, I get what Mars represents in a chart”. I then was able to start learning and understanding how Mars was like in other signs (Cafe Astrology is a great beginner online source!). Instead of learning what each house meant, I would read about what my personal placement of Venus in the 10th house meant by google searching it- eventually the 10th house meanings would click. Y’all feel me?

Let’s be real. We all selfishly want to learn about ourselves. When we learn about our chart first, layer by layer, planet by planet, we can validate what we are learning, because we know if it is true for us or not. Once you get confident with your own chart, move onto close friends and family (with their permission, of course!) since we can validate our learning by already knowing them well or by talking with them about it. After you have that down, you not only have a really cool party trick in your back pocket, you likely are becoming more empathetic and understanding of the people in your life. If you still want more - time to start testing your skills on strangers!

Astrology is SO complex and has so many layers. It takes a lot of interest and dedication to stick with learning it - so my advice would be to follow what you are most curious about first! Love? Learn your Venus placement and then open that up into learning what Venus is like in each sign, then what it is like in each house, etc. You may just get hooked on learning more and more!

“Lauren, that’s great and all but I need a freaking concrete answer on where to start!”

I feel y’all. A good place to start is by simply learning each sign’s personality (find this on the internet from any source you’d like, y’all). Why? Because you'll find that each planet and house is directly connected to a sign.

  • Aries - 1st house, Mars

  • Taurus - 2nd house, Venus

  • Gemini - 3rd house, Mercury

  • Cancer - 4th house, Moon

  • Leo - 5th house, Sun

  • Virgo - 6th house, Mercury

  • Libra - 7th house, Venus

  • Scorpio - 8th house, Pluto

  • Sagittarius - 9th house, Jupiter

  • Capricorn - 10th house, Saturn

  • Aquarius - 11th house, Uranus

  • Pisces - 12th house, Neptune

The houses are tough to learn bc they represent so many different things but if you know the signs well, it clicks way better. Let me break it down “…like Uh, 24 karat, 24 karat magic…”

For example : 

Taurus - consistent, lovers of quality over quantity, security (both financially and comfortability) is a driving force for them, determined, hard working, reliable, doesn't like change, protective, strong sense of values, love and appreciation for beautiful things/the finer things in life - good food, good wine, cozy blankets, etc. 

The 2nd house - Each house has literal and figurative themes. The 2nd house is the house of money and our values. It is how we make money and how we value it (hold on to it, how we spend it). It represents security not only in a financial way but also in a - what makes me feel safe and comfortable type of way (love, food, material needs). As far as value goes, it's not just the value of material things but it is also how we value ourselves so it becomes the house of self worth as well. 

Planets falling in the 2nd & what sign is ruling the 2nd house - will determine how someone is with money, their views on it, what makes them feel safe & secure, and what provides or hinders their self worth. 

Transits to the 2nd house - will have a literal impact on the money we make or impact figurative themes like our self worth or feelings of security.

Venus - (planet that rules Taurus) - represents money, value, beauty, enjoyment, venetian things - good food, good wine, nice decor. Venus is also the ruler of Libra so that’s why is also represents our love language, charm, relationships, negotiations, art, music, parties, creativity, fashion, makeup & beauty.

See how they are all connected??! By finding and understanding the through-line of themes that parts of astrology shares, it will save you a lot of time! This is something I wish was broken down for me when I was learning because I didn’t see the connection till after the fact! I hope this helps as a starting point for anyone interested in learning!

xx Lauren



May 30, 2019


No one takes the “woo” out of “woo woo” like Lauren O’Connell (AKA The Modern Astrologer). And this is why we love her! When it comes to astrology, people fall on one of two ends of the spectrum. You’re either like “I’m not leaving my apartment until Mercury is out of Retrograde” or you just think “No, Karen…you’re not a Scorpio, you’re just a bitch.” Regardless of your beliefs, Lauren’s modern approach (hence, why shes’s the Modern Astrologerwill make you think about astrology a little differently, and maybe even teach you something new. Ever heard of Human Design? We hadn’t before we met Lauren and now we are OBSESSED. Let’s just say, you’re in for a real treat! (cont reading

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Best Basic Ways To Utilize Your Birth Chart

Understanding your birth chart may feel like learning a whole new language – it’s confusing as heck! The easiest way to grasp is by thinking of your birth chart as a screen shot of the sky when you were born. What constellations (zodiac signs) the planets were in at that moment become your personal planetary placements. Based on the exact time you are born is how to know what zodiac sign starts your chart – which then dictates what houses of your chart these planets fall into. Find out a break down of this in one of my previous blog posts here -- Understanding The Houses:

I try my best on my Instagram to explain where each transit is happening so that everyone can find it in their charts to see where it is impacting them the most. “Transits” are what the planets are doing CURRENTLY in the sky. Transits are always moving while your birth chart is always the same and doesn’t change. Once you get to know your own chart, you can then layer it with what’s happening currently. For example – If Mercury is about to be retrograding in the sign of Libra and you know that Libra is your personal third house in your chart, you then can prepare for the effects of that transit (In this case, Mercury retrograding) in the third house by looking up “Mercury retrograde in the third house”. This will give you a much more precise explanation of how this will impact you and advice on how to utilize this energy to your advantage – rather then the typical “Oh, Mercury is retrograding, everything is gonna go cray!”. Certain transits can be totally helpful in one house and then frustrating in another – so it isn’t a one size fits all impact. If you are a visual learner you can check out this (super scrappy) youtube I made to help explain finding things in your chart --

The houses, planets and signs are tough to comprehend as a whole and transits are as well. My advice is to just start with one thing, grasp it and then keep going. So, instead of learning what all of these things mean I will break down some fun things to know that are simple to find and will help you move through life.  Head over to to input your birth info to get your chart. You can hover your mouse and click on each placement for info.

Here are a few great starting points to learn about your self as well as those close to you:

·      Rising sign – (this one you will have to know your exact time of birth to find. If you do not know/have access to this, skip this.) Our rising sign, also called the “ascendant”, is the zodiac sign that is at the beginning of our birth chart. It is the first impression that we give off to people and how we take on life. It is a very big part of our personality as well as our physical appearance and mannerisms. For example, I can usually spot a Gemini rising because they are immediately very chatty, social, distracted, etc. It becomes the sign we expose at all times.

·      Sun Sign - everyone knows his or her “sign” but in astrology this is called the sun sign. The constellation/zodiac sign that the sun was in when you were born. Yes, your sun sign is a big part or your personality; it is our conscious self, our purpose. Think of it as our basic identity.

·      Moon sign – the moon represents our subconscious self, our emotional personality. It rules our needs, instincts, and reactions, how we handle and express stress/sadness/vulnerability/love. It is the part of us that perhaps only the people who we trust and can be vulnerable with can see in us. Find what sign your moon is in – this is the personality that is innately who we are deep down. It also tells a lot about our love language.

·      Venus sign – Venus represents love, money, creativity and things we enjoy. Look to what sign your Venus falls in to get a big glimpse into your love language and how you show love. For example – a Venus in Taurus may want to cook/snuggle/be cozy in high quality blankets with a nice glass of wine while a Venus in Virgo may prefer their partners to do something practical like walk the dog, pick up coffee on their way home for them type of thing. It’s important to know your Venus sign so that you are able to express what you need in love and explain how you show love. A Taurus Venus person may be frustrated and want to share time over a lovely meal at home or out but may not realize that their Virgo Venus partner is totally showing their love by running errands for them. Once you both see each other’s way of showing love, you can start to compromise and express your needs better.

·      Mercury sign  - Mercury represents our communication style and our logical mind. It’s how we learn, and express ideas. A Mercury in Aires person may be blunt and direct with their communication, while a Mercury in Cancer may feel out the situation first and communicate accordingly. No way of communicating is wrong. What gets tricky though is when we communicate in an opposite way then another person and then place blame on them for not doing it our way. This happens a lot in relationships of all kinds. It is a very useful tool if you can find out what sign your boss/colleague’s/partner’s/family member’s Mercury falls. Let’s flip it around and try to communicate to others how they best take in facts. Empathy, people, empathy.

·      Lastly, (if you do happen to have your exact time of birth), finding out what house these above planets fall in your birth chart is taking it one step further. For example what house the sun falls in your chart is important for finding out where our personalities shine the most – what lights us up. It’s where we seek to express ourselves the most.

Astrology can be such a fabulous tool for us to gain self-awareness. For example, if your moon sign is very different then your sun sign, it will be a great “a-ha” moment and explain things like how you could be so chill/easy going with friends and colleagues (sun) yet touchy and nitpicky with family and partners (moon – how we are with people we trust and are vulnerable with). Astrology is also just as fabulous to use as a way to help understand others and how they operate so that we can meet each other half way. Basically, Astrology can change the world…ha, jk …but seriously?


Favorite Spiritual Recourses + Healers You Should Know

It’s funny how that when we really tap into what we personally need – the universe keeps delivering more and more of it to us. The tricky part is getting clear on what that is for us. With the overwhelming amount of “try this”, “read this” coming at us at all times, it can be hard to know which things resonate with us directly or it it’s just another thing we add to our ever-growing spiritual/health toolkit that get’s buried after a few weeks of attention. The key is self-awareness - which, I think, is the single best gift we can give to ourselves. And that is, in a nutshell, what Astrology gives us. Our birth charts are our personal blue prints. It shows how we take on life, how we emotionally react to things, how we show and receive love, how we communicate and take in information – and how all of these things can be very different from each other. It also shows what we are good at and what we aren't so good at (and why!).


A lot of what we are conditioned to do is to perfect the things we are not so great at in order to raise up to a certain standard. What we should actually be doing is focusing only on what we are naturally great at and leave the things we suck at to the people who excel in those things. When we focus on being better at the things that aren’t naturally “us”, we are then taken out of the flow that the universe is wanting us to master. Here’s the secret – life should be enjoyable. When we do what we are good at and continue to get better at those things, we gain things like confidence, the ability to help other people, a sense of purpose, etc. And that, my friends, is when the universe will continue to reward us with more and more momentum and joy. So, if you do the work to get to know yourself and become bold enough to live in that truth, the next step is to trust. Trust that more opportunities will show up in many ways for you to continue on the path.


At this moment in my life, I am receiving so many “pings”, opportunities and connections and the more that I trust and react to these things, the more they are showing up. Since almost everything that has helped me has shown up for me through things like blogs, podcasts, articles or specifically recommended to me through others, I do want to provide you guys a list in hopes that it will also help you. But I don’t want you to just take my advice on these recommendations and then fall into the spiritual/self help ADD that I have succumbed to in the past. Instead, listen to your gut when you read about them and see if it resonates with you in this moment – if not, move along! Below is a breakdown of a few people & places (there are so many but these are my FAVES) that have inspired/ helped/ healed/expanded me (this list is always growing!)– do any resonate with something you need right now?


·       Lacy Phillips (remote) of To Be Magnetic - Lacy pairs manifestation with a nice dose of psychology. She teaches that in order to manifest we first have to take a deep look at our subconscious programming. We need to subconsciously believe, through what she calls “expanders” (people that we see ourselves in that currently have what we are trying to manifest) that we can and deserve to have these things. She explains how self worth equates to manifestation and we do that by stepping into our truth. She offers many online courses you can take remotely.

·      Jenna Zoe (remote) of - This is the gal that has inspired me to learn Human Design. She breaks it down in such a modern way. Getting to know my Human Design was a big “ah-ha” moment for me. For the first time, the idea of how I am personally supposed to move through life, clicked. It is a combo of the Hindu chakras, the Chinese iChing, conventional astrology and the kabbalistic Tree of Life. Jenna has remote offerings on her site but you’ll want to first pull up your HD chart at to find out your design.

·      Human Garage (Los Angeles) Where do I start? I could cry. For me, my main priority lately has been my physical body. I have done all of the work on mental, spiritual as well as my health routines but my body simply is not responding.  I’ve been down the arduous path of being ignored by doctors, paying out of pocket for tests and trying to be my own advocate. I have chronic pain, weight gain, digestive issues, inflammation, and energy issues – the whole shebang. The minute I had my consult at the Human Garage all of my issues were honed in on without me even mentioning them. Then, I was told how they are all connected. It was finally all tied together for me. I was literally told that my body is holding on to past trauma and even though I have healed these things, the body still holds them.  (I need a separate post just for this I think – soooo much to type). This place encapsulates everything that I was looking for and it’s all under one roof.  My mom is a physical therapist and I have always needed a lot of work on my body – hello, getting run over by a car as well as many other injuries like chronic TMJ from a softball to the jaw.  So, even though I am into all things Eastern medicine – I do really see the need for the Western/scientific approach to injuries and I like how the Human Garage still used these scientific approaches. Then there’s my love for spiritual and energy healing like reiki, acupuncture, craniosacral, fascia work, etc. They do this too. Nutritionists, lab tests and supplement protocols tailored to you? Check, check! Add in some “woo-woo” vibes of channeling while getting adjusted and you have the Human Garage. This is one of those places where you will be spending a wild amount of money at – the type of money that for me was a huge investment. But what better thing to invest in then your health?

·      Sat Nam Yoga (Chicago) - this isn’t your average vynassa yoga studio, so be prepared for a much more “woo-woo” vibe. I found Sat Nam when I was first dabbling in the spiritual world. My favorite thing they offer is the 1st Friday Healing Circle. On the 1st Friday of each month, starting at 6pm, they have a room full of healers with different modalities that you can have quick 15min sessions with. What I love about this is the ability to feel out who resonates with you. Your friend’s favorite Reiki healer could be off-putting to you… and you wouldn’t know it until you’re already lying awkwardly on a table, vulnerable and forking out a lot of money. I have found amazing people that I have booked sessions with from here. It’s $15 to get in and then you tip the healers for your mini sessions throughout the night. Make sure you get there early because they use a sign-up sheet method and they tend to fill up quickly! I also love their new & full moon Kundalini ceremonies… bc, moons. Although, this may be a bit woo-woo for the spiritual dabblers.

·      The Ruby Room (Chicago) This space has the best vibes. Even if you don’t check them out for a treatment, check out there shop if you can bc it’s adorbs. I have been here for a BioMat session. Okay, also, TMI… but I have done colonics twice here. They are not fun. But this space is wonderful and the practitioners make you comfortable… as comfortable as one can be with a tube up the pooper. I am currently working through some digestive issues and toxicity issues and while colon hydrotherapy has a lot of mixed opinions, it has helped me. I’ve only gone 2x in 4years… bc it’s not my ideal, enjoyable version of self care - but if you have ever considered it, I recommend trying this place out. I mean, or you could like get a massage here instead? Ha J

·      Cindy of Revealing Soul (Chicago + remote) - Cindy takes and interprets the ever instagramable aura photos. You can book sessions with her or catch her at one of the many pop-ups that she has going on at the moment. Cindy also channels and is a medium. Her skills are mind blowing and she is also so sweet, fun and approachable. Hey, if I am going to talk to dead people, I definitely want it to be with someone I feel like myself around and that speaks to my vibes. I’ve done Cindy’s chart for her and I can vouch – gal has the gift!

·      Rachel of Totem (Chicago) - Rachel is hilarious AF. I have seen her for Tarot and have been to her Shamanic Journey sessions. I met my spirit animal, ya’ll. It’s an elk btw. She is sassy but also very mystical – the shamanic journeys may be a bit “out there” for spiritual dabblers.

·      Sean Reeves Gary (Chicago) myofascial massage/release - Sean is so lovely and calming and you can tell he really cares about what he does. You can find him through While a myofascial massage feels super light and not like a typical massage, I have found more tension release from them. Fascia is the thin connective tissue that surrounds our muscles and connects all of our bodies’ tissues. We hold a lot of trauma and stress here so prepare for a spiritual/emotional release! If you are having a lot of physical pain – start here. The mind body connection is real, y’all.

·      Nico (remote) of - Nico is a Tarot wizard. He also has a combo reading of astrology & tarot. He’s blunt, sweet, and smart as heck. I found him on YouTube and love to watch his weekly readings for each sign (remember to always watch for your RISING sign!). He is in Seattle so he does Skype readings. I have made all of my friends and family book readings with him. I am a pusher sometimes, ha!

·      John Wineland (remote) - John’s teachings about intimacy and the masculine/feminine are so enlightening. Just find podcasts  he’s been featured on and prepared to be like “Oh shit, YES! This makes sense!”

·      Kosmic Konnection (remote) Palm readings Kat Anders and her son, Anthony. I like how they tie the body/health into readings, specifically the spine. Kat has Masters in Health Education and she found the correlation of the spine in the palm. I have a lot of injuries so this was particularly fascinating to me. You can get cheap palm readings on the street pretty much in any city and yes those are fun… but usually are done by people who take advantage money wise and have a dark vibe – “will clear your aura for $50 more dollars”, etc. If you can see a great and trusty palm reader in person that would be best but as far as remote/digital offerings – this is the best I have found!


Apps that I love:

·      For Astrology :

1.     Time Passages (free) – I use this everyday

2.     Co-Star (free) - this has too much wording for me as an Astrologer but great for the astro-curious

3.     Future Life ($10/mo)– The Leo King’s app. This one costs a pretty penny but he is a fabulous Astrologer who I definitely recommend. He puts out a video EVERY DAY about the energy and transits of the day.

·      Other :

1.     Tarot&Numerology by Phuture Me Ltd. (free) – Numerology & Tarot for the year/week/day and you can skip around to certain dates.

2.     Ovia (free) to track your lady cycles for insights into hormone health. Yes this is an app for those trying to get preggo, but I have found it very insightful at tracking my health.

3.     Headspace for Meditation (free) – I think we all know about this one



Books that I love:

Can y’all tell by my podcast that I don’t read many books to completion, or at all? Lol. Pretty much anything I read is about metaphysics, or practices I am learning – not so much for entertainment. A few books that do stick out to me that I have actually completed and also feel shifted me, rather then repeated things back that I have already heard, are:

·      Spirit Babies – yep, this is the title. Haha. Basically it’s about how before we have babies, their spirits pick us and hang around in our auras until we are ready. Great for anyone who has experienced miscarriages, abortions, trouble getting pregnant, questions about adoption - or if you are like me and are simply curious about how we choose the life we are born into.

·      Untethered Soul – the book that happened to click for me about how we are not our thoughts, we are the observer of our thoughts and we can separate the two. There are many out there with similar messages but this was my “soulmate” book.

·      Wired for Love – wow. I found out that I am an “Island”, y’all. Read this book if you are curious about your relationship patterns. Couples should read this together and singles should read this to better prepare for a future relationship - IMO.

·      Medical Medium’s books – are y’all celery juicin’??


Documentaries / shows that I love:

·      HEAL (Netflix)

·      Explained: Astrology episode (Netflix)

·      Super Soul Sunday – I LIVE for this show, ugh. (OWN)

·      Kumare - thanks for the rec, Elisabeth! (Amazon Prime)

·      I Am Not Your Guru, Tony Robins (Netflix)



I hope some of these recommendations help you on your spiritual journey! Please share with me about any cool people/places I should know about, too!


How I learned Astrology & am learning Human Design

I often get asked how I got into Astrology & how I went about learning it. Now that I’m learning (obsessed with) Human Design, I can try to explain.

How I am teaching myself Human Design is how I taught myself Astrology - I like to compare it to leaning an instrument. Anyone can learn how to do it. But heck y’all, when I tried to learn guitar, it didn’t come naturally to me, it was frustrating, and the amount of time and effort it would have taken to learn - I just didn’t have the desire, patience and passion to do so. So with things like Astrology, Human Design, fill in the blank, it needs to be a combo of natural ability, intuition, desire to learn, obsession/passion, & dedication to finding time to do so. But hint, hint, when you have the others, finding time is easy bc you enjoy it so much!

Many people also ask what sources I used to learn. With the way that my mind learns, unfortunately I don’t have a direct answer or a list of books I read - I just followed my curiosity down the rabbit hole in a non-linear way. I started with Vedic Astrology, which I still incorporate, before moving over to Western Astrology. (Funny how my grandmother did Western Astrology and it eventually became much more “me” then Vedic). I would post myself up in coffee shops on nights and weekends watching/pausing/ taking notes to YouTubes and studying charts of people I knew to lock in the knowledge. I learn new skills to this day, almost 4 years later, and am just as obsessed with learning as I was when I began. Which has never happened with any other hobby that I’ve picked up (as a Manifesting Generator and a Gemini Moon - I pick up A LOT of hobbies BUT that’s part of my design and I am supposed to do that!). I guess that’s when you know it’s meant to be.

Yes, there are expensive courses out there for both Astrology and Human Design (and this structure may be perfect for the way you need to learn) but I learn simply by being curious about a random part and diving deep into that, rather then a streamlined learn this, then that, type of way. Although likely a longer process, I get to understand it in my own way and relay it to clients in my own voice which in return, I hope, makes it more relatable and digestible. Hence the “modern” in my name. That, and I have so many god damn retro planets in my chart, I have to learn in a less practical way .

Although I am no expert, you guys can now add a Human Design mini reading to any of my offerings for $20 if you want to know more! Or check out @jennazoe who is an expert and who is my inspiration! I’m thinking about adding a page on my website that has all the healers/teachers/locations/products/podcasts that I am obsessed with & recommend- would y’all want that?

Later taters,


Natal chart explained - Houses

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Our birth chart is a circle that is separated into 12 sections, kind of like slices of pie. Each slice represents an area of our life - these are called our “Houses”. Each house is ruled by a zodiac sign and there are 12 of those as well.

Think of the signs as the vibe/characteristics/personality that color the houses and how you approach that area of your life. The signs are always in the same order for everyone’s chart (Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces) but your time of birth will dictate which sign starts your chart. The start to your chart is called your Rising Sign or Ascendant Sign. Your Rising Sign is the beginning of your 1st House which kicks off your natal birth chart wheel. The houses go counterclockwise from 1-12. So, if your rising sign is Cancer for example, then your chart will still keep the same order as I mentioned but start with Cancer (Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, etc). Each sign is exactly 30 degrees long but some of our houses can be bigger or smaller then 30 degrees. Because of this, we can have a couple zodiac signs falling into one house. Even if there are a couple signs falling in a house, you always look to the sign that is at the beginning of the house (this is called the House Cusp) to see which sign “rules” that area of your life.

The planets are all in specific signs in the sky when you are born. So, once you find out your Rising Sign, you can see what house in your natal chart that each of those planets fall in. This will bring those planet’s meanings into your houses. Each planet represents a specific part of our personality so finding our what area of life (what house) they fall in will be a big part of how we use that part of our personalities.

While this post is focused on our natal charts, I have to mention that the houses are also very important for predicting events. Your natal chart never changes but the sky is always changing. So, you can take what is happening in the sky currently and line it up with your chart to see how the current sky is effecting you and where in your life (what house) you will be feeling their impacts and outcomes that can happen. These are called transits. More on those separately but this helps explain why each house has so many meanings - many of which may be strange to hear if simply interpreting our charts as our “make - up”.

Below are my quick explanations of what each house rules in our lives:

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